By: Kari Fulmek
Life is hard and change is hard. That’s a given.
If you try to live without change, both are even harder.
Ask yourself this important question: what’s the worst thing that can happen if you make a change in your life? Usually the answer to that is, “it won’t work.” Can you survive if it doesn’t? More importantly, can you survive if you don’t try?
So many people I encounter through our programs at Equine Connection share amazing ideas with me on what they want to do in their lives. Their inner voice is telling them to put their ideas into action, but their outer voice bombards them with all the reasons why they should maintain the status quo. Don’t let your best ideas die with you! Find the courage to listen to your inner voice and wrestle your ideas into living, breathing form within your life.
The reasons we give for acting on our ideas usually stem from money, from responsibility for children or ailing dependents, or from restrictions imposed by domineering people in our lives. Money is a factor in all our lives. Even those who are wealthy fear they will make a bad decision and lose their wealth. Those with no money at all worry they will move from scraping by on a daily basis to living on the streets.
There is validity to concerns about money, but at the end of the day, if you have enough to handle your basic survival of food, clothing and shelter, everything else is extraneous. Responsibilities are also valid concerns, but caring for the ill and the young can often be shared with paid supporters or loving friends. If you look for options, you can almost always free yourself for some of the time to pursue your idea.
If your empowerment is curtailed by a bully in your life, you have to do what you advise children on the school grounds to do – just walk away. However hard it is to act, you know in your heart life is not lived under the domination of another. If you are bullying yourself with negative self-talk, you have to tame that beast as well and move forward.
Empowerment does not come from the money in your bank account, the hours you spend as a martyr, or the smallness of your life trying to stay out of the way of others. It comes from the conscious choices you make that your ideas are valid, that you have a gift to share, and that you have the means to do it.
You deserve to feel ignited as each day dawns. Your spirit deserves to be free and your brain and heart deserve to be united in purposeful work. It is up to you, and only you, to wrestle down all the barriers to your empowerment and start now to put your ideas into action. You and the world will be better because of it.
Kari Fulmek is the author of “Two Weeks to Empowerment” and the founder and owner of Equine Connection, The Academy of Equine Assisted Learning. She is a master instructor and senior facilitator in an International Horse Facilitator Certification Course that includes business training, the only program of its type in the world. From her base near Calgary, AB in the foothills of Canada’s Rocky Mountains, she travels the globe to empower clients.