Written by Tessa Kampen
There is no way around the fact that life is hard. Find a person who has not gone through painful experiences, and you’ll actually find someone who hasn’t fully lived. I’ve have had my fair share of those experiences myself. Just recently, I was doing some yard work and I dropped a rock on my foot, and because I don’t own hard-toed working boots, I wore runners. OUCH! I learned that I must be more careful and have proper footwear when doing that type of work.
After 40 years of living, I’ve realizes that life is about learning – and by using the lessons we’ve learned, we become better at our work, better as parents, better at being a friend and just better all around. Each day is a new day to learn something new, to gain new perspective and understand more and more what this world is about. I’ve discovered that this helps me be more grateful in life and a more optimistic person in the long run.
“Learning isn’t something that stops when we are handed a diploma.”- John Wooden
Most people stop learning after high school or college – intentional learning that is. In fact, studies show that they never pick up a book, attend a course or are willing to learn new perspectives once they graduate. However, I believe that this is a time in our lives when we truly start to learn! I have learned more since graduating then I ever have in my studies! School provided me with the basic tools to handle life outside of a classroom, but what about when life knocks you down, or you experience something you couldn’t possibly prepare for? Who teaches us how we are supposed to react to everyday life and disappointments that come our way?
There were years where I thought I knew everything, and I thought my losses couldn’t teach me anything. I was stuck, frustrated and just wanted to give up, but I soon realized that pausing, re-evaluating situations, and considering what was really going on, allowed me to gain the insight and knowledge to make adjustments and move forward.
My mentor John C Maxwell talks about the different components of dealing with different types of losses, and taking those lessons and turning them into valuable weapons to equip us for challenges that will come our way in the future. Because if we don’t, the following difficulties will arise:
- Emotionally, we will become stuck
- Mentally, we will become defeated
- A gap between “I should” and “I did” will be created
- Bigger losses will come our way
Knowing all this, do you feel that setbacks, disappointments and failures are holding you hostage? Are you dealing with some bad news and you just cannot seem to move forward? There are lessons in all of those aspects of life, and you can change your perspective with proper insights to turn those dark moments into light. By looking at losses as opportunities for growth through learning, then we become unstoppable. Life is hard and it will always contain losses, but when armed with the tools to learn, losses will not overtake you.
Tessa Kampen is wife to an amazing husband and mother of two spirited children, Quinton and Chloe. She is a Lead Community Manager for Mompreneurs®, ensuring that our growing community of members are supported no matter where they are located or how big or small their business is!
A version of this article previously published on www.tessakampen.com