Written by Edita Atteck
Have you tried self-improvement strategies, personal growth tools, stress relief hacks, new diets, fitness regimes, or personal transformation tools, all in an attempt to reach a point where you feel you are living up to your true potential?
You may likely have read many books on how to change your habits, how to become the best version of yourself, or how to ignite a change within, and yet you may still feel as though you are looking for something to get you to that next level of personal freedom, achievement and expression.
I help busy professionals like you become self-leaders, and create massive transformation in their lives, allowing them to get unstuck, transform stress, become more resilient, and thrive in life. A self-leader is someone who is masterful at integrating all parts of their being, such that they experience wholeness and resilience, and can create positive change in all aspects of their lives, including their relationships, their careers and their health and well-being. I would go so far as to say that self-leadership enables true transformation.
Let me share with you an excerpt from my Ultimate Guide to a Successful Personal Transformation: The 7 biggest mistakes that people make when they start on the path of personal transformation.
- Approaching it as an intellectual exercise: Today, we spend most of our time in our heads. We analyze, think and overthink. We live in a culture that glorifies intellect and ignores the experience of the body, or even downright denies it. It’s no wonder that when approaching personal transformation or change, we tend to “think our way through it” – attempting to change our thoughts or beliefs in isolation from the rest of us. This leaves us fragmented, and therefore, untransformed.
- Ignoring patterns: When taking on personal growth, we tend to look at one area and attempt to change it, and we often fail to recognize the deeply embedded patterns of our functioning that are rooted inside our nervous system. Without appreciating our human “operating system,” the isolated change will ultimately leave the pattern unchanged.
- Neglecting the language of our body: Our society tells us to value our intellectual faculty over all others, including the wisdom of our bodies; however, our physiology is a rich source of information that we have largely been led away from. Biologically, we are feeling beings that happen to be able to think; not the other way around. Without tapping into and working with that wisdom, transformation attempts will be fruitless.
- Working on changing the mindset only: Changing the mindset does not address the other components of our being, again leaving us fragmented. Have you ever worked on changing some of your beliefs or practiced affirmations, but something inside you rebelled? Or, worse yet, you felt like a fraud? Mindset is very important but it doesn’t exist in isolation.
- Relying on coping mechanisms: Coping mechanisms distract us from discovering and resolving the true issue at hand inside of us. When we reach for food to soothe us, get lost in being incessantly busy to take out minds off of something we don’t know how to deal with, work out obsessively in an attempt to make up for what we lack in our self-esteem, or use another coping mechanism such as alcohol or social media, we prevent true healing, wholeness and transformation from taking place.
- Not working with a mentor: It is not easy to self-identify your own opportunities for growth. Many of the areas of our lives that need attention and healing are blind spots for us and require us to work with someone experienced in personal transformation and dedicated to helping others. Accountability partnerships are incredibly powerful tools.
- Reading a lot, yet not acting: When we read, we engage our minds and our intellect. Transformation requires we experientially move through exercises and do the work necessary to connect with our whole selves again. Relying solely on your mind to cause lasting change in your life will get you stuck. Instead (for you intellectuals this might sound a little scary!), transformation requires you to drop down out of your head and into your body. As Einstein famously said: “The only source of knowledge is experience.” I learned that by applying a wholeness approach to not only my own personal growth but the growth of all of those I had a privilege to guide, transformation came naturally.
Edita Atteck is an Elite Mompreneur member based out of Burlington, Ontario. As the owner of Edita Atteck Creative Living, she works with busy professionals who are looking for a road-map to emotional and mental freedom, and whose desire is to become better parents, partners, and leaders in their lives. Edita’s expertise is in helping people develop Emotional Literacy, overcome stress and anxiety, improve relationships, and unlock their innate leadership. She is a speaker, mentor, and author.
A version of this article previously published on www.editaatteck.com