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When It’s Time to Focus on Your Needs

Women are notorious for putting everyone else’s needs before their own; this can ring especially true for moms, as it’s part of the job. However, it can become a problem if your own needs are never being met. While you have to put your heart and soul into your family and your business, you can’t give so much that it hurts.

when it's time to focus on your own need as a mompreneur or female entrepreneur

Here are some indications that you need to draw a line:

You have nothing left to give

You would love to go outside and play with your child, or take time to do some research for that new client. The problem is that you can’t seem to will your body to get up off the couch. As difficult as this may be for you, either get someone else to do it or let it wait. You need to rest.

You’re feeling resentful

You spend so much of your day looking after everyone else that you never do anything for yourself. That would make anyone feel resentful. Your needs matter just as much as everyone else’s, and it’s important for you to feel cared for and respected.

Nobody considers your needs

Have you started to notice that nobody seems to even recognize that you have needs? Don’t be too hard on them; others around you have become so used to depending on you, that it probably doesn’t even occur to them that you’re just as worthy of attention as they are.

Picking up on the signals that you are in need of some important self-care time, and helping those around you to understand how you are feeling, is not necessarily an instantaneous revelation – old habits die hard, as they say. It may take some strategic planning, focused conversations, and honest open-mindedness to not only share your thoughts, but also have those in your circle understand and appreciate them.

Once you have identified that it’s time to start drawing boundaries, you need to find a way to do it without hurting the people around you: Continue reading When It’s Time to Focus on Your Needs

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5 Tips That Will Give You More Energy

Written by Karen Bivand

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It’s 6:30am – time to wake up!  How do you feel?  Do you jump out of bed eager to take on whatever challenges today has in store for you?  Or do you stagger around like a zombie until your third coffee?  If you are chronically exhausted, here are a few tips that will help you get that spring back in your step:

Analyze your sleep habits.
How much sleep are you getting each night?  It is recommended that adults get at least 7 hours.  However, just devoting the time to your sleep isn’t enough; you also need to pay attention to the quality of sleep that you are getting.  Other people, noise, light, stress, and caffeine can all interfere with your quality of sleep.  If you are sacrificing sleep time to get more work done, it may actually be counterproductive.  You are more efficient and effective in your work when you are well rested.

Accept a challenge.
Your low energy could be as simple as a lack of motivation.  Could it be that you just aren’t feeling enthusiastic about what you are doing?  There’s a quick fix for that; try to find a challenge that makes you feel excited.  Aim for something that’s a little outside of your comfort zone.  You may find that getting out of your monotonous routine is all you need to do to get your blood flowing.

Take care of the basics.
There are many reasons that you could be lacking energy and your physical health is a big one.  When you are running a business and taking care of your family, it is easy to fall into the trap of neglecting your own health.  Make it a priority to eat healthy food on a regular basis, drink plenty of water, and try to do at least 30 minutes of exercise each day.  It may also be a good idea to visit your doctor to rule out any medical conditions that may be making you tired.

Plan a vacation.
When was the last time that you did something just because you wanted to?  When we overextend ourselves for a long period of time, we all burn out.  Re-charge your batteries by planning something fun.  If possible, book a trip somewhere exciting.  If that’s not feasible, a day at the spa or even a shopping and lunch date with a good friend may do the trick.

Take care of your appearance.
Nobody is suggesting that a bright shade of lipstick can make up for three nights without sleep.  However, if you invest some time and energy into making yourself look gorgeous, you may feel a little more capable of conquering the world!    

 

 

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How to Stop Overextending Yourself

tips to stop overextending, for women entrepreneursDo you often feel like you have bitten off more than you can chew? Do you find yourself rushing from project to project with barely enough time in between to eat or shower? If you are like many entrepreneurs, you may have a tendency to over-commit yourself.  People overextend themselves for various reasons; perhaps you just get caught up in the moment and agree to something before you check your schedule, or maybe you find it difficult to say no to people.

Whatever your motivation, it leaves you feeling frustrated and frazzled, and it could potentially damage your reputation if you’re not able to honour all of the commitments that you’ve made. Here are some tips to help you take control and stop over-committing:

  • Acknowledge that it’s a problem: While it’s normal to be busy, if your hectic pace causes you to be stressed out most of the time, then it is something that you need to address. Being constantly on the run is bad for your health, puts a strain on your relationships with your friends and family, and can cause you to lose focus of your goals. You can work on your business for twenty hours a day and still find that success slips through your fingers. Being busy is productive; frantically scrambling around is not. If you think that you may currently be overextended, then it is time to step back and re-evaluate.
  • Listen to your body: Your body is great at telling you when you’re going too fast, provided that you take the time to listen. How do you feel? Do you have trouble sleeping? Are you tired all of the time? Do you suffer from headaches? Are you having digestive problems? Do you have acne or eczema or any other skin conditions that flare up when you’re stressed? If your body is displaying symptoms of stress then it means that your activities are physically straining you. Don’t take these symptoms lightly; while you may only be able to detect a headache and a rash, that same stress could be causing much more serious damage to your body.

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Important Sleep Facts

The key aspects to a healthy lifestyle, as most of us know, include a healthy diet, daily exercise, and getting enough sleep so that your body is able to recover and restore itself effectively. Sleep is one of those things that many of us use as a crutch or even as an excuse, especially when it comes to our lives as entrepreneurs and/or as parents.

Having a late start to your day because you stayed up until 2am to complete some work on your desk? Taking the day off of work because your toddler had a nightmare and you didn’t get enough sleep? We’ve all been there, but it’s important to make sure that you consider your sleep habits to be as important as your positive eating, working, and healthy living habits.

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Thanks to Elite Mompreneur member Madelaine Golec of ECO Physio, we’re happy to share these 10 things you need to know about sleep:

No one’s sleep is broken. Unless you have a tumour in a very specific spot in the brain, everyone has the potential to improve their sleep

Treating sleep apnea is of utmost importance. If left untreated, it can result in an enlarged heart. When the airways close during the night, this causes your heart rate to slow down to conserve oxygen. The brain eventually detects a decrease in oxygen and causes your heart rate to increase. It is this increasing and decreasing of heart rate over time that causes the heart to enlarge. Why is this bad? Because it can cause irregular heartbeats resulting in heart attack, stroke or death.

How much sleep do we really need? About 7-9 hours daily. Each person can accumulate a certain amount of sleep debt, meaning the amount of sleep you can lose while remaining functional at the level you want. The amount of debt will depend on age, gender, genetics and medical conditions. It is important to note here that debts must be paid in order to maintain that optimal function.

What are the consequences of not sleeping? Decreased decision making, decreased memory, increased blood pressure, increased heart rate, increased stress, increased pain, slow reaction time, decreased sexual function, weight gain and more. All of this can be reversed by improving sleep. Continue reading Important Sleep Facts

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Entrepreneurs & Burnout

Written by Erica Mitchell

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At some time in our life we all experience burnout, and some of us will experience more than others.  As entrepreneurs we may be more susceptible to work burnout, as we have this mentality that we can do it all, or that we have to do it all. We are driven for success, and sometimes there is a lot of pressure on us to prove that we can run our own business. With the pressure we put on ourselves, and the pressure we may get from others, we tend to forget how important it is to take time for self-care. The hardest part is recognizing and/or admitting that we are burned out.

Signs you may be Experiencing Burnout

Overwhelmed
Your to-do list keeps getting longer, and nothing is getting crossed off. You lack the energy, concentration and motivation to work on your business. Everything seems to be too much to handle. You feel like packing it all in. It’s like a hamster running on his wheel, he keeps running but doesn’t get anywhere.

Depression and Anxiety
You may start experiencing some negative self-talk. Comments like “I’m no good”, “I can’t do this”, or “It’s pointless” start running through your head. Your sleep and appetite are impacted. You may feel on edge and have no patience. Feelings of sadness and self-doubt can start taking over your life. Staying in bed all day seems like a really good idea. If you don’t recognize these as warning signs, unchecked these feelings can lead to experiencing suicidal thoughts.

Physical Symptoms
Stress and burnout can lead to physical symptoms. You are more susceptible to colds and flus. Physical symptoms can present as stomach upset or pain, chest pain, racing heart, headaches, and dizziness. If you are experiencing any of these you should be seen by your physician.

What you can do

The first step is to be honest with yourself about how you are feeling. Admitting that you are struggling is not a weakness, but in fact a strength. Consult with your family doctor or other health care practitioner. Focusing on these important areas of your daily life can also help: Continue reading Entrepreneurs & Burnout

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The Untold Secret as to Why You Feel Stuck in Your Life

Written by Danielle Joworski

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Your mother probably never told you this, because she was never told. Or allowed. You are probably passing this onto your daughter, friends, peers and team members without even realizing it, because you were never told, or allowed.

And you are left wondering why you are stuck.

What is the biggest secret causing generations of women to feel stuck in their lives? If you are not living YOUR life, you are living A life.

When living A life, you are conscious of what your thoughts, beliefs and values are, and that they orchestrate your actions and behaviors. You may agree or disagree with your movements throughout life, but you keep moving forward without much awareness of why you do what you do… even if you do not want to do it.

To live YOUR life, your mindset shifts. You become conscious of the origin of your thoughts, beliefs and values, while at the same time, becoming aware that you can give yourself permission as to how to react or respond to the experiences life provides you with. You use courage to make the conscious decision to accept or reject the origin of your thoughts, beliefs and values. You empower yourself to create new ones based on your own knowledge, experiences and innate sense of truth as to who you are. You shift to creating your own reality and sense of self in each moment, from unconsciously allowing long-past ideologies and false-truths to create your realities today.

When you are living your life, whereby you are standing in your truth, you will feel light. You will feel free. Passion, purpose and a sense of intention will lead your actions. There will be no anchor holding you down, or baggage slowing your growth forward. Your feet will effortlessly move forward towards goals and results that align with your true beliefs, values, and what makes you feel that sense of life and happiness every day.

You can break the cycle of beliefs passed onto you from days past, in order to life your life today, for you, in the present. I am proof that by standing in my truth and learning how to find passion and purpose in my life, I am now living a truly happy life. My life.

Now that you know the secret, you can start living a life unstuck from what is holding you back. By embodying your truth, you will see, feel and BE living YOUR life. As you learn how to live YOUR life, you become a role-model to younger generations of girls, showing them how they can live THEIR life, empowering them to discover what their truth is at a much younger age.

Awaken. Empower. Master.

~ Danielle


Mompreneur Danielle Joworski

Danielle Joworski is an Elite+ Mompreneur member based out of Guelph, Ontario, and is the author of The Athena Prodigies. Every day, Danielle lives her I AM life, consciously aware that she can always do more to empower women and girls. You can learn more about Danielle and download a complimentary audio gift by visiting her website. Listen to it when waiting in the drive-thru, brushing your teeth, or when you just need that minute (or 2!) to yourself to breathe.

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Walls Talk – The Importance of Decor in Your Child’s Bedroom

Written by Jacqueline De’Ath

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Decorating our homes is an important process. It allows us to express who we are, what it is we love and surround ourselves with things that make us happy and inspire us. It’s the things we put in our home that turn it into our “home sweet home”.  However, did you know this is not only true for us as adults, but for our children as well? That’s right, decorating your child’s bedroom can be a huge factor in helping to raise their self-esteem, overall confidence and sense of connection and belonging.

In fact, by building a room around a child’s specific character, as well as their likes, interests and the things they love, you are saying to them: “You matter. Your voice matters. Who you are matters”. For example, if your daughter really loves the color pink, and happens to be really into painting art (even if it is still just finger painting at this stage), creating a room for her that has pretty, pink, pillows or a nice pink wall colour, and also showcasing her art by hanging it in frames on her walls, ultimately helps her honour who she is. You are helping her to begin putting together the building blocks that will make up her identity. You are reminding her that what she likes is important and valued — what she identifies as being a part of herself — is special and worth celebrating.

Furthermore, decorating your child’s bedroom to include various special keepsakes (like achievement plaques, a first stuffed animal, family pictures, etc.), helps them to see that not only are they supported for who they are today, but for who they have been since they time they came into your life.  Continue reading Walls Talk – The Importance of Decor in Your Child’s Bedroom

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Personal Image Mistakes that Women Make & How to Avoid Them

Written by Victoria Baird

Personal Image Mistakes that Women Make

Aging gracefully is a reoccurring topic for me. Why? Because I am 46 and trying my best to do just that… age gracefully! Not because I want to look young, but rather so I don’t look ridiculous!

I am proud to be 46. I never lie about my age; I embrace it and have moved into mid-life in good shape, I’m happy, confident and aware of what I don’t want. As much as there are some “choice terms” out there for beautiful women in their forties and fifties, I am very aware of not trying too hard to retain my youth because I want my naturally sexy, sassy, sophisticated self to shine! I offer advice from personal experience and share what I see and hear, added with my years as a hairstylist and image coach. So with that in mind, I want to share with you some tips about aging gracefully that have worked for me:

Head to Toe

Hair Colour: 

Don’t colour your hair too light – bleached out (think Barbie), or too dark (think Goth). Hair that’s coloured in either extreme can offset our skin tone, which is also changing as we age!

Do choose a hair colour that’s somewhere in the middle. Your hairstylist can help you select a colour that you love and also suits your skin tone. Also consider adding hi-lites and/or low-lites for dimension and to make your style interesting!

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5 Strategies to Conquer the Morning Madness…

… and actually get to drink a hot cup of coffee before noon!

Written by Elaine Tan Comeau

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Being a mom is like having to be a superhero, or the CEO of your own household! Studies show that morning time is the most stressful time for moms — but it does not have to be this way! Discover five strategies to successfully melt morning stress away and get your kids to shine to their full potential as helpful members of the family!

  1. Manage your time.
    There is a saying that goes like this, “Failing to plan is planning to fail.”  The best way to free up time in the morning is to plan to get things prepared the night before. I know we’ve all heard this, but how many of us do it? Taking just one thing out of the morning routine and getting it done the night before gives you an extra 10 to 20 minutes in the morning! It is worth it, whether it’s picking out clothes for tomorrow and laying them out, or packing lunches and putting them in the fridge. Demonstrating to our kids how to plan ahead and spread out tasks over time, instead of cramming, teaches them a life skill that will prepare them for bigger challenges as they continue to grow older, challenges they will face when it comes to things like doing big school projects and studying ahead for multiple exams.
  1. Manage your expectations.
    If children could be programmed like robots to do everything they are supposed to do, there would be no need for us parents! Parenting is not so controlled, so let’s make our expectations realistic. Identify one to three key tasks or steps you want your child to accomplish each morning. For example, you may want them to become independent at getting dressed and being at the breakfast table by 7:45AM. Start with small steps to help them build up independence. When they can see success in completing one small step with ease, they will be more up for the challenge of doing another task independently.

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Miracles

Written by Jan Baxter

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While being grateful for my many blessings this holiday season, I got to thinking about miracles. It seems that we often think about “who” we are — we are a parent, an aunt, a grandmother; we are kind, we are a provider, etc. But do we ever think about “what” we are? We are miracles!

According to Albert Einstein, “You can choose to live your life as if nothing is a miracle, or as if everything is a miracle.”  

I feel that each and every one of us is a miracle. Consider these amazing facts:

  • In one square centimetre of skin there are over 3 million cells, 1500 bacteria,  700 sweat glands, 200 nerve endings to record pain, 10 hairs, and 1 meter of  blood vessels.
  • The adult heart is about the size of the fist, and beats about 40,000,000 times a year. During an average lifetime, the heart will pump enough blood to fill 200 train tank cars.
  • A newborn‘s skull has gaps between its bony platelets; whereas in an adult, the jagged plates interlock tightly like a jigsaw puzzle.
  • An adult skeleton has 206 bones, and an adult human body has about 100 trillion cells.
  • We have about 5 million receptors in the upper part of our nasal passage that help us distinguish among thousands of different odours.
  • There are about 9,000 taste buds on the surface of our tongue, in the throat, and on the roof of the mouth.
  • Our body rebuilds itself in less than 365 days – for example, a new stomach lining is formed every 5 days, a new liver is formed every 6 weeks, our D. N. A. every 2 months, a whole new skeleton every 3 months, and our blood every 4 months.

 

Are you a miracle? Just check your pulse!


Jan Baxter is an Elite+ Mompreneur Member from Waterloo, Ontario. As an Independent AIM Distributor and Living Well Coach, Jan is passionate about living a healthy lifestyle and inspiring others to do the same.

 

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